If you’re interested in developing new friendships, you’ll love my chat with Kristen Strong. Kristen, whose authored books include Girl Meets Change and When Change Finds You, also compiled the 90-day devotional, Praying Through Loneliness. Her new book is titled Desperate Woman Seeks Friends. Kristen writes as a friend walking alongside you in your lonely season to a more helpful, hopeful destination. She loves sharing laughs, long talks, and meaningful stories with family and friends while holding a cup of strong black tea. She and her US Air Force veteran husband, David, have three beloved adult children.

I found her delightful. Here’s our conversation.

In this conversation, Melanie Wilson and Kristen discuss the unique challenges that homeschooling moms face in building and maintaining friendships. They explore themes of isolation, the importance of deep versus casual friendships, and practical strategies for overcoming obstacles such as busyness and fear of rejection. Kristen shares insights from her book ‘Desperate Woman Seeks Friends,’ emphasizing the need for vulnerability and the value of creating rituals to prioritize friendships. The discussion highlights the emotional benefits of connection and the importance of understanding different personality types in friendship dynamics.

Kristen Strong’s website

Kristen on Instagram

Have a happy homeschool week!

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• • What about transcripts?

• • What if I’m not qualified enough?

• • Will my teen miss out socially?

• • dual enrollment,

• • internships,

• • certification programs,

• • apprenticeships,

• • online classes,

• • entrepreneurship,

• • travel,

• • mentoring,

• • and meaningful family connection.

• • The biggest myths parents believe about homeschooling high school

• • Why transcripts are easier than most parents think

• • How to create high school credits from your teen’s interests

• • Preparing students for college and non-college career paths

• • Scholarships, AP courses, and competitive college admissions

• • Why homeschoolers often have more flexibility and opportunities

• • What socialization really looks like for homeschool teens

• • How homeschooling high school can strengthen family relationships

• • Helping teens process worldviews that differ from your family’s values

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Hey, homeschoolers! Few things are as distressing as having an anxious child. I’m revisiting the topic today.

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In this conversation, Melanie Wilson discusses anxiety in homeschoolers and provides a three-part framework for managing anxiety. The first part of the framework is prevention, which includes ensuring regular sleep and wake times, engaging in exercise, and limiting caffeine intake. The second part is recognizing the symptoms of anxiety, such as muscle tension, headaches, stomach aches, and insomnia. The third part is substitution, which involves teaching children to calm themselves down through deep breathing and changing their thoughts. Wilson emphasizes the importance of faith in managing anxiety and suggests using scriptures and truth journaling as tools. Overall, she emphasizes that anxiety can be overcome with practice and offers her curriculum, Training Aliens, as a resource.

Help for Anxious Homeschoolers

How to Help Your Child Manage Emotions

Truth Journaling

Top Bible Verses for Anxiety

Training Aliens

Have a happy homeschool week!

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Welcome to the The Homeschool Sanity Show, where it’s all about less frustration and more confidence in your homeschool and parenting.

I’m your host, Dr. Melanie Wilson—Christian psychologist, homeschool mom, and author of story-based curriculum kids love.

And today, we’re talking about one of the biggest sources of frustration for homeschool parents…

kids who don’t take initiative.

If you feel like:

• • you have to remind your kids of everything

• • they wait to be told what to do

• • or nothing gets started without you

this episode is for you.

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Because what looks like laziness or lack of motivation…is usually something else entirely.

Let’s dive in.

I want to start today with a question that might feel a little too familiar.

Have you ever thought:

“Why do I have to tell my kids everything?” “Why can’t they just see what needs to be done?” “Why don’t they start their work without me reminding them…again?”

If that’s you, you’re not alone.

In fact, it’s one of the most common frustrations we have as homeschool parents…and it’s it’s exhausting.

Because when kids don’t take initiative, what happens?

You become the manager of everything. You carry the mental load. And you start to feel like if you don’t say it… it won’t get done.

That’s frustrating.

But what if I told you that a lack of initiative isn’t necessarily a character problem?

It may be a skills problem.

And that’s actually good news for us.

Let’s define initiative in a simple way.

Initiative means:

Noticing what needs to be done—and acting. Without being told.

Now, when we define it that way, we can start to see why our kids struggle.

Because initiative actually requires several underlying skills:

Awareness (noticing what needs to be done) Planning (knowing what step to take next) Motivation (getting started) Confidence (believing they can do it)

If any one of those is missing… initiative breaks down.

Here’s where it gets tricky for us as parents. When kids don’t take initiative, it feels like:

• • They don’t care

• • They’re being lazy

• • They’re ignoring us

But much of the time?

They’re overwhelmed… unsure… or simply untrained.

And when we interpret it as defiance, we respond with:

• • more reminders

• • more frustration

• • even verbalizing our assessment of their character

Which—unfortunately—doesn’t build initiative. It actually shuts it down.

I had kids who didn’t take initiative to clean. I spent time teaching them how to clean but didn’t teach them to notice when something needed to be cleaned. It seemed like they should just know. But the truth is, they weren’t thinking about the value of a clean house like I was. They were likely thinking about games, sports, and friends. If I had it to do over again, I would have taught them to notice when something needed to be cleaned or put away and I would have given ample rewards to motivate them in the beginning.

I also had a kid who did take initiative, but not in the way I wanted. Without telling me, my teen called the tennis coach of our local high school and asked what was required for him as a homeschooler to be on the team. That’s something we often forget to teach our kids. Initiative isn’t just “do whatever you think is best.”

It’s: notice act and ask if you need permission

I made it clear that my son should have asked first. He did end up being on the tennis team. And his initiative was a blessing when it came to applying for college scholarships. He handled the whole process.

But many kids wait to be told what to do. Why?

Here are a few common reasons:

1. They don’t know what “done” looks like

If expectations aren’t crystal clear, kids hesitate.

2. They’ve been corrected a lot

If they’ve heard “That’s not how I wanted it,” they may stop trying.

3. They feel overwhelmed

When everything feels big, they don’t know where to start.

4. They’re used to being directed

If we’ve always told them what to do, they haven’t practiced deciding.

So what can we do to help our kids build initiative muscles? Let me give you a few practical strategies.

1. Make the invisible visible

Instead of assuming they “should know,” say:

“Here’s what I would notice in this situation…”

You’re training their awareness.

2. Start small

Initiative grows with success.

Instead of: “Take care of your schoolwork,”

Try: “What’s the first thing you can do right now?”

3. Allow imperfect action

If we correct everything, kids stop initiating.

Let some things be “good enough.”

(This is hard for us perfectionists—but powerful.)

4. Ask instead of tell

Instead of: “Go start your work,”

Try: “What do you think should be done next?”

Now our child is planning, not just obeying.

5. Notice initiative when it happens

Even small things.

“I noticed you got started on your math without being reminded.”

That builds identity: “I’m someone who takes initiative.”

Here’s the shift I hope you take away today:

Instead of asking:

“What’s wrong with my child?”

Ask:

“What skill is missing?”

That question changes your tone. It changes your response. And it changes your child’s experience.

If this is an area your child struggles with I want to give you something to help.

I’ve just completed Level 3 of Training Aliens, a fun, story-based curriulum that teaches kids social and emotional skills. I want to send you the lesson on initiative for free.

This lesson is designed to:

teach kids what initiative actually is give them a story-based example they’ll remember and help them practice it in a simple, concrete way

Instead of lectures, kids learn through: stories modeling and practice

You can grab that free lesson in the product description here:

If you enjoy it, be sure to take advantage of launch pricing for Level 3 this week. Or grab the discounted bundle of all three levels, allowing you to choose the skills your kids need to work on first. These materials are a wonderful summer course for your kids.

If you’re feeling frustrated right now, I want you to hear this:

Your child’s lack of initiative is not a fixed trait.

It’s a skill that can be taught.

And you don’t have to carry the whole load forever.

With the right tools and a little patience, you can move from:

constant reminding to growing independence

And that leads to exactly what we all want:

Less frustration… and more confidence.

Thanks for joining me today for the Homeschool Sanity Show, a production of the Ultimate Homeschool Radio Network.

Have a happy homeschool week!

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• • What if I’ve been too hard and my child rebels?

• • What if I’ve been too soft and my child can’t make it on her own?

• • What if I’ve already done damage that can’t be undone?

• • Clear — your words and actions send the same message

• • Calm — you respond rather than react out of anger or anxiety

• • Consistent — you follow through most of the time

• • Connected — your relationship with your child comes first

1. 1. A 7-Day Just Right Discipline Reset — short daily emails, a printed guide, and audio encouragement to walk you through a course correction this week, even before you finish the book.

1. 1. A Just Right Discipline Swaps Guide — practical ideas for what to say and do instead of defaulting to too hard or too soft responses.

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In this episode, Dr. Melanie Wilson sits down with Kirby Kelly — author, speaker, and podcaster — to talk about her new book, The Fabric of Hope: How God Weaves Redemption into Every Season. Kirby has lived through deep personal loss, chronic migraines, and seasons that felt like a long, dark winter. She doesn’t offer easy platitudes — she offers something better: honest, biblical hope.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• • The difference between wishful thinking and true biblical hope

• • Why hoping in God — and still feeling disappointed — is something Christians need to talk about openly

• • How the four “threads” of hope (God’s promises, patterns, personhood, and presence) can anchor you in the storm

• • Why Jesus being “well acquainted with grief” is one of the most comforting truths in Scripture

• • What to do when God’s will doesn’t go the way you prayed

• • A powerful first step for rebuilding hope — even if you’re in the darkest season of your life

About Kirby Kelly: Kirby Kelly is the author of The Fabric of Hope, a speaker, and the host of the Bought and Beloved podcast, where she answers listeners’ real-life questions with accessible, scripture-grounded theology. She lives in the Dallas, Texas area with her husband Richard and is expecting her first baby in April.

Resources mentioned:

• • The Fabric of Hope by Kirby Kelly — available everywhere books are sold | FabricofHopeBook.com

• • Bought and Beloved Podcast — new episodes every week

Connect with Kirby Kelly: Website & book info: FabricofHopeBook.com Podcast: Bought and Beloved

Depression and the Homeschool Mom

Hope – When All Hope Is Gone

How to Be Happy and Homeschool Too

If this episode encouraged you, share it with someone who needs a reminder that hope is still real and still possible.

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Have you fallen behind in your homeschool plan and now avoid opening your planner because it feels too discouraging?

You’re not alone.

In this episode of The Homeschool Sanity Show, Dr. Melanie Wilson explains why so many homeschool moms fall behind—even when they start the year with the best intentions—and what to do when your homeschool plan no longer matches real life. If you’ve ever looked at your lesson plans and thought, There is absolutely no way we’re getting all of this done, this episode is for you.

If you’ve been feeling behind, discouraged, or quietly tempted to pretend your planner doesn’t exist… this episode will help.

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• Best Homeschool Planning Tips
• Tips and Tools to Organize Your Homeschool for Insanely Easy Planning

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One of the biggest reasons homeschool plans unravel is something called the planning fallacy.

The planning fallacy is a common human thinking error that causes us to underestimate how long things will take, even when we’ve done them before and should know better. In homeschooling, that might look like:

• assuming a science experiment will only take 30 minutes
• believing you can finish two full language programs in one year
• thinking you can get to co-op faster “this time”
• forgetting how long math or writing lessons actually take

Dr. Wilson points out that many homeschool moms also deal with optimism bias—that tendency to believe that this time things will magically go more smoothly than they have in the past. And while optimism can be helpful, it can also lead to unrealistic homeschool planning.

If you’ve ever wondered, Why do I keep doing this to myself?—there are actually some understandable reasons.

According to the episode, homeschool moms often fall behind because they:

You assume every light will be green, no child will melt down, and the printer will behave.

It feels better to make a hopeful plan than to admit you probably cannot do everything on your wishlist this year.

You remember the math lesson taking 10 minutes when it actually took 20.

You tell yourself:

• I’m more organized now
• The kids are older
• This curriculum is easier

Maybe. But maybe not.

It’s much easier to plan a realistic week than an idealized full school year.

Homeschooling rarely happens in a vacuum. Life happens:

• kids get sick
• appliances break
• dogs escape
• people need help
• emotions show up

That doesn’t mean you’re bad at homeschooling. It means you’re homeschooling in real life.How to Get Back on Track in Your Homeschool

The good news? You do not need to throw out your homeschool plan completely.

You just need a better one.

Here are the key strategies Dr. Melanie Wilson shares for getting back on track:

Instead of assuming everything will go perfectly, estimate based on what usually happens on a normal or difficult day.

A simple way to do this:

• estimate how long something should take
• then double it
• or at least split the difference between best case and reality

If a science experiment “should” take one hour, plan for two—or at least one and a half.

That may feel pessimistic, but it’s actually more honest and much more useful.

This one stings a little—but it’s freeing.

Sometimes the best way to get back on track is to stop trying to fit everything into this school year.

Instead:

• make a list of “not this year” ideas
• save great projects or extras for later
• choose what matters most right now

That doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It means you’re prioritizing.

One of the easiest ways to plan more realistically is to stop guessing.

Try timing:

• your math lessons
• science labs
• writing assignments
• read-aloud time
• transitions between subjects

This gives you actual data instead of wishful thinking.

And yes… it may be mildly humbling But it’s incredibly helpful.

Ask yourself:

• What consistently slowed us down last year?
• What took longer than I expected?
• What parts of our day always felt harder than planned?
• What routines still aren’t working?

If your homeschool day still tends to start late…If your kids still dawdle…If you still hate setting up science supplies…

That matters.

Past patterns are often better predictors than future hopes.

If yearly planning keeps overwhelming you, try shifting to:

• quarterly planning
• monthly planning
• weekly planning
• even daily planning if needed

Short-term planning can feel more manageable and more realistic.

It also gives you a chance to adjust before things spiral too far off course.

This may be the most sanity-saving strategy of all.

Dr. Wilson encourages homeschool moms to leave margin in their plans—intentional open space for the unexpected.

That might look like:

• leaving one hour unscheduled each day
• keeping one lighter day each week
• leaving one week open each month
• creating “catch-up” space instead of packing every day full

This is so important because real life always shows up eventually.

And when it does, margin helps you recover without feeling like the entire year is ruined.

If you’re already behind, here’s your gentle reset plan:

• Open the planner
• Don’t panic
• Don’t try to catch up on everything at once

Then:

• What absolutely still needs to happen this year?
• What can be simplified?
• What can be dropped?
• What keeps getting in the way?

• revise your expectations
• shorten your planning window
• add margin
• move forward from today, not from where you “should” be

That’s how you get back on track.

Not with guilt.Not with overloading tomorrow.But with a better plan.

Falling behind in your homeschool plan doesn’t mean you’re failing.

It usually just means your plan was built for an ideal life… and you’re living a real one.

The goal is not to create a perfect homeschool year.

The goal is to build a homeschool life that actually works.

And that starts by planning with reality, grace, and a little more margin.

Have a happy homeschool week!

Be sure to subscribe to the show for regular updates and planning resources!

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• How To Close The Complaint Desk In Your Homeschool
• How To Help Your Child Manage Emotions
• How To Teach Your Kids To Make Wise Decisions

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Do you have a high school student who struggles with grammar? Or do you have a soon-to-be high school student and no idea how to approach grammar at this stage?

This is the Homeschool Sanity Show, the episode where I share a sane approach to teaching grammar in high school.

• Homeschool Mom: You’re Not Alone
• To The Homeschool Mom Who Feels Like She’s Failing
• Overcoming Perfectionism As A Homeschool Mom
• 12 Homeschool Hacks That Changed Everything
• How To Close The Complaint Desk In Your Homeschool
• How To Help Your Child Manage Emotions
• How To Teach Your Kids To Make Wise Decisions

Hey, homeschoolers! If you’ve struggled to help your high schooler use correct grammar in writing or if the thought of teaching it in the high school years gives you the heebie geebies, I have good news.

This episode is sponsored by CTCMath.com

As I’ve explained to parents of elementary students many times, these younger students simply aren’t developmentally prepared to master the abstraction of grammar. It’s similar to the abstract reasoning ability required to master algebra. Sure, some students develop this reasoning ability earlier, but most don’t. Up until this point in their development, they were working hard to decode and pronounce words and determine the meaning of words given the context of the sentence. Asking them to determine the role of the word in a sentence as well is extra challenging.

That’s why I made Grammar Galaxy a fun, confidence-building introduction to grammar and other language arts in the elementary years. I didn’t want them avoiding grammar once the were developmentally ready to use it in their writing.

When students are in classes with other students and sharing in speech or writing, they will want to avoid the embarrassment of poor grammar. I capitalized on this peer pressure with my own kids with great results. In the English classes I taught, students read their writing aloud and passed it to a friend to read aloud. This performance pressure rapidly improved my students’ grammar and spelling. High school students also begin to use messaging and email and do not want to have poor grammar and spelling for their friends to see. Some of them will be interested in learning grammar for the first time as a result.

With the developmental ability and new motivation, students can use grammar curriculum to learn more quickly than they could have in elementary school. With instruction, they will learn to make better use of automatic editors like Grammarly. Like all writers, they will still require another human editor–whether that’s you, an outside instructor, or a friend with good grammar. I have found high school students learn from this editing feedback very quickly.

I hope I’ve convinced you that your teen isn’t behind or incapable of growing as a writer if they still need to master grammar.

Studies indicate that high school students tend to spend more time with friends than reading as much as they did in their earlier years. They also tend to use reading time for study instead of leisure. But reading for enjoyment is the key to developing your student’s vocabulary, grammar, and writing. Invest time helping your student find enjoyable books and making time to read them in their schedule.

Reluctant students want to know why they should care. Using prescreened, funny grammar memes and examples is a great way to do this. Because I write grammar curriculum, my high school student loves pointing out grammar errors he finds. You can have fun with this, too. Consider having a competition to find grammar errors.

• • First, keep grammar instruction short. I think of grammar like a tennis drill. When I take a tennis lesson, I enjoy doing a short drill on volleys. But doing an hour of it without playing the game would be a buzz kill.

• • Make grammar memorable. When grammar concepts are taught using relevant humor, multimedia, games, and with adequate repetition, students will remember it. (Grammar teaching podcast).

• • Limit the corrections to a student’s writing. Correcting all the grammar and spelling mistakes at once can be demoralizing for a budding writer. Tell your student ahead of time which grammar issues you’ll be looking for. Consider limiting your first review to the content. Give as much positive feedback as possible. Then go over the specific grammar skills you’re working on. If your student asks for more feedback, then give it. But otherwise limit your editing to those skills.

When choosing a grammar curriculum for high school, you haven’t had many options. There are worksheet drills indistinguishable from elementary and middle school curriculum. There are the thoroughly dry English curricula that have sentences unrelated to story or to teens’ lives. And then there are brief reviews that are optional. My students didn’t learn anything from these.

The number one request I get from Grammar Galaxy booth visitors at Great Homeschool Conventions is a curriculum for high school. I knew that the Grammar Galaxy story line wasn’t well suited to older teens, so I created a new fictional curriculum. Kirk English, the programming whiz kid in Grammar Galaxy, has developed a program to deal the failure of autocorrect. His Fast Grammar training is for human autocorrectors. These trainees will get to know clients’ intentions so they can correct their grammar in real time through the power of science fiction.

The client in the training is a high school student who has typical teen troubles as well as high school writing assignments. Students who use Fast Grammar correct the client’s grammar while learning it themselves. Trainees will look forward to getting the client’s updates in each lesson.

Fast Grammar is a supplemental, secular curriculum that can be used with any high school literature or writing program. The brief lessons can be completed in one sitting or preferentially, spread out over the week. Like Grammar Galaxy, much of the lesson can be completed with a highlighter. Homophone graphics are included each week because choosing the wrong homophone is a common and embarrassing problem for writers.

The curriculum is completely independent, with the solutions at the back of the student book. At the end of each unit, teachers can administer a test that is available in a separate PDF download. The solutions will help you score the test and give a grade that can contribute to the English grade for the year.

Click here to download a complete lesson. If you’ll be joining me at the Great Homeschool Conventions this year, you can see it in person. The week of this broadcast, the curriculum is 20% off in print or digital.

Whether you try Fast Grammar or not, I hope I’ve given you hope that high school can be the time that your student grasps grammar. Give some of these strategies a try, and I feel confident that you’ll see your high schooler’s writing improve.

Have a happy homeschool week!

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